If you are fortunate enough to have old albums or boxes of photos from the late twentieth century (Wow…did I just say that like it’s a historical thing?) you may notice a recurring theme. One parent, usually the mother, is often conspicuously absent. We hear the explanation “She was always the one behind the camera” or “She hated having her picture taken.”
What a loss. How much better it would be for children and grandchildren to be able to look through the photos and find pictures, not just of themselves, but of their mothers. How nice it would be to look back and see entire families together, instead of bits and pieces that largely feature the children.
When I first joined facebook back around 2008 or so, very few women used pictures of themselves for their profile. They used pictures of their children, or an avatar of some kind.
In this case, it wasn’t that someone else was behind the camera. With current technology, it’s pretty darn easy for anyone in a developed country to get a picture of themselves.
In this case, it was because the women didn’t feel comfortable showing anyone what they looked like.
That’s not absurd, it’s tragic. Who told these women they weren’t beautiful enough to show their faces? And where can I find this naysayer so I can smack them upside the head?
Over the last few years, I have seen more and more women break out of their shells and post an honest and genuine picture of themselves on their profile. It’s still not uncommon to see avatars (and yes, men do this too) with all kinds of excuses. I’ve used an avatar myself at times, but it’s usually only for a short time, and for a specific reason.
Please, turn the camera on yourself. At your best, at your weirdest, unkempt, dolled up, alone, with a random bunch of strangers at a con, with your kids, smooching your hubby. We want to see the real you. We want the genuine, and trust me, you’re totally worth it.
My ROW80 Writing Update for the Week
I still struggle with the new goal of only letting the ‘writing related’ tasks trump the ‘actual writing’ three days a week. However, being very conscious of that goal this week I was also aware that there were specific deadlines that had to be met. One Does Not Simply Walk Into Mordor and The Day Lorinda Flew are now up for preorder on Amazon thanks to the work my publisher and I did this week. Artwork for the cover of The House on Paladin Court is being tweaked with my formatter. And on top of that, I have finished the Cities of Luna short I was working on, and written several thousand words in The Beekeeper’s Mother.
In short, I am very productive, although not adding as many words as I’d like to the WIP.
Much of the work I’m doing now is working ahead for NaNoWriMo. (I added some burritos and spare ribs to the freezer of dinners-ready-to-go-in-the-oven.) So I’m going to cut myself a little slack in October, knowing that I should be able to do more actual writing in November.
Want to play a game? Find the picture I accidentally included twice in the collage. At least…I think I only repeated one…
What’s everyone else doing for #NaNoPrep? Is anybody else making dinners ahead?