SciFi Q of the Day: Play Dough

SciFi Question of the Day: What level of technology will we need to reach in order to separate the rainbow-gray mash of play dough back into it’s individual colors?

Facebook Answers

  Robert B. Fredricksen I think even if we had a matter/anti-matter powered device that could seperate matter at the sub-atomic level all bets are off. I think it would be easier to just re-dye the play dough.

  Dan Bressler Right after we can unscramble an egg.

  Shane Fahrnow I have no answer to this. All I know is that when I smell Play-Doh, I want to eat it.

  AmyBeth Fredricksen Still?

  Shane Fahrnow If nothing else, I can serve as a bad example.

Google Plus Answers

Charles An-y-man's profile photo  Charles An-y-man  –  Me and 1 liter of straight Malibu coconut!

Skip the glass! + toothpick to move the grains…

Apple Scott's profile photo  Apple Scott  –  Depends on how the colors are blended.. lol…  Laminar Flow

Robbie Taylor's profile photo  Robbie Taylor  –  A simple nanotech extractor that can differentiate colors – or can dye them as needed…

I would love to hear what you think! Even if you are reading this post a year or more after publishing, I hope you will leave a comment with your own ideas on this topic.

The previous SciFi Q of the Day is Asteroid AG5

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The next SciFi Q of the Day will be up next Tuesday.

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Interview With Eden Mabee

I came, I saw, I made typos…

then hack \ and burn (well, not really, the burner is broken).  I make bad jokes that few others seem to get, dabble in photography with a mediocre camera and write speculative fiction that involves learning almost as much history as as a Masters of the Arts.

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1.       Have you always considered yourself to be a writer, or was there a time in your life when you decided that is what you were?

I always told stories.  Usually I was more interested in trying to create cartoons (or comics) as a kid.  I would try to draw the same silly picture over and over with just the smallest change (my vain attempts at animation, I guess) and get frustrated when things didn’t work out the way I wanted (or worse, I would see them get torn up by my parents who wanted me to be more involved in school work….  it ALWAYS hurts worse when someone else devalues your work, but it’s always most destructive when you do it).  I actually didn’t think I could write at all until I was well into 10th grade when, mostly out of a need to compete with my best friend and prove I was more than just the “math girl”, I tried handing in some of my more creative stories in for English class (translate:  things that just *barely* fit into the parameters of each assignment, stuff like chapters of Doctor Who novels in place of vocabulary sentences, comparisons of Shakespeare and Star Trek…  lots of Doctor Who and Start Trek).  And our teacher (THANK YOU, Mrs. Kinowski!) encouraged it from both of us.

Thus two writers were born, and many many spiral bound notebooks suffered for our vanity.  Shan and I traded stories back and forth, creating something that might qualify as collaborative slash fiction, but really was our way of trying to one up each other.  As horrible as the stories were, they kept us writing and improving our craft ( though only Shan went on to be an English major. After high school;  I hadn’t been convinced yet that it was anything more than a fun hobby).

2.       How did you get the name “Mouse?”

In college….  I hid a lot.  It’s not so much a shy thing.  I tend to enjoy watching from the side-lines.  And it had something to do with a former boy friend…  Bad question.  Can I have another?  (Now why I became “the mouse that roared” is kind of fun, but you didn’t ask that…  😉 )

3.       How did you get your twitter handle “Kymele?”

Oh, easy one…  I made it up.  Here’s a link to a note on Facebook that explains it (https://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=308624236430)

.  It’s my own personal vanity, but it also seems very honest since I did create these stories.  (And because I used to sing semi-professionally)

4.       Just how many monikers do you go by?

Hopefully just Kymele or Eden, these days…  Mouse really hasn’t fit for years.  I just keep it around because I hate changing things and it’s cool to have that email address.  (there is what my father still calls me…  “Pickle”  it’s as silly as it sounds.  I really love pickles.)

5.       Do you ever play off the words “Garden” and “Eden?”

One of my blogs is named the Garden of Delights (http://edenmabee.wordpress.com), so I guess that answer would be yes, though I am thinking of combining my present blogs into one and calling it Mabee Paradise.

6.       Tell me about “A Garden of Delights.”

Well, it is this really awesome painting done as a triptych by a man called Hieronymus Bosch.  The layout…

Oh, that’s not what you meant!  Well, it’s a blog, mostly a place where I try to share things that inspire me and hopefully others will enjoy.  It’s more personal than Many Worlds.   On Many Worlds I try to keep the posts related to writing and storytelling or the creative process.  On A Garden of Delights, it’s really no holds barred.  At the moment, the biggest thing I’m trying to work on in creating a bi-monthly column called “Your Inspirations” where I post pieces by others along the theme of “what inspires me (the author)”.  I posted a piece by my first guest Elaine Stock this Monday, and loved watching the interplay (actually,  Elaine is the reason I considered this project; her blog (http://elainestock.blogspot.com) is almost all guest posts, and I can see why… There is something addictive about connecting two people who have never met before through your common interests).

7.       What is a fractal? Can they be beautiful?

Fractals are visual representations of mathematical equations that repeat themselves over and over ad infinitum, and not only can they be beautiful, but many of them are stunning.   If you do a Google Search for something like “Mandelbrot” and click on images, you will find countless examples.  But if you want something closer to home…  look at your broccoli someday.  Seriously.

8.       How would you describe your style of photography?

Amateurish…  No, really, I mean that.  I’m still toying with my camera (it’s a Canon G5 and big and clunky and not very upgradable).  It was only this past December that I made the jump to brave any of the Manual settings.  Until then, everything was Auto focus in some form or another.  I’ve never had a photography class, only partly paid attention to my father when he tried to teach me how to take pictures…  I love looking at photographs and trying to figure out how the photographer achieved the effect s/he did, but most of the attempts I make hit the recycling bin before I even hook the camera up to the computer.

9.       How long have you been doing A Round of Words in Eighty Days?

This is my first ROW.  It’s been amazing.  I even signed up as a sponsor for the next round, since I love visiting the blogs of other ROWers and seeing all the great projects they are working on.

10.   Have you been meeting your goals? Have you changed them?

Oh, I’ve changed them, a  couple of times actually.  At first I didn’t know what my limits really were.  Probably a lot of newbies have the same experience.  I think changing my goals actually helped me realize some truths about myself that I wouldn’t have been able to admit otherwise.  And it allowed me the ability to forgive myself enough to actually find something that works for me.

11.   We both love the David R. Palmer novel Emergence! What do you like best about this story?

I’d have to ask what’s not to like?  Palmer pushes his readers.  He does give them treats (recognizable details such as the statue of “Ashington”), but he also pushes us emotionally and intellectually.  And he makes use feel more capable than we are, not just individually, but as a species.  It’s a very hopeful book, despite its bleak opening.  It’s also brutal…  It’s about growing up too young, about not being able to trust those you need to depend on, and it’s about real friendship.

Again…  What’s not to like?

12.   Does being the granddaughter of farmers influence your writing and photography?

I take more pictures of nature and old decrepit buildings than anything else for one.  As for my writing?  I don’t know if it “influenced” my writing, though it did give me more time to explore stories and world-building.  You can ponder a lot of conflicting plot points when you are picking ten bushels of beans or hoeing a 1/2 acre of squash.

Who these farmers were as people ended up influencing my writing more than the fact they were farmers.  My grandfather was a WWII vet who’d been been literally dragged from under the porch of his father’s house when he’d been drafted; he operated radios in the Battle of the Bulge, helped relieve the camp at Dachau…  Though he never spoke about the war (we only learned these things about him when he had to request his military record for pension issues), he talked a lot about politics and the actions of world governments.   He read (still reads) several papers and history/science/news magazines daily.   Discussing politics with him still leaves me feeling as if I’ve been living under a rock.  The man is amazing.

And his counter, my grandmother (not his wife, my other grandmother) who also farmed and worked and…  She is the activist’s activist still.

I don’t think farming had anything to do with it, except giving me time to explore my own thoughts somewhat.

13.   What kind of world building have you done in your own writing?

Well, that’s several blog posts in one question.  I’ve created several distinct religious structures (with sub-cults); tiered class structures for four races of beings,  I’ve established geological changes over several centuries, both encouraged by the actions of the people in my stories and by systematic changes such as decay, weather, etc.  I’ve included changes in language over this same time period, as well as physical changes among races due to interbreeding and the effects of war and famine as well as cultural changes.  I’ve created separate creation myths for each race.

And then I’ve drawn maps, created pictures to try capturing the types of architecture these races would use…  I have about twenty notebooks filled with scribblings about this detail of language or that building’s orientation to the rest of the town square or how the women in this family are kept in the dark about their future husbands while the girls in that family may have lovers before they marry…

14.   What’s the difference between Science Fiction and Speculative Fiction?

Science.  Both are speculative, but science fiction demands a higher “science” element that I don’t feel qualified to write.  I do use futuristic elements in my writing, and science does come into play, but I try to keep it limited to what I can verify without devoting my life to a new study.  I already spend far more time research than actually writing new fiction these days.

15.   What is your favorite electronic or digital writing tool?

Scrivener.

16.   What is your favorite non-electronic writing tool?

Yummy Zebra F-401 pens and these notebooks my husband bought me at Cafepress: http://www.cafepress.com/+journals

17.   What is the most persistent distraction from writing?

The internet.  That and my son or my cat (usually they play tag-team distractions by watcjing around the corner and then saying something JUST as I start typing).

18.   Is getting published one of your goals?

Yes, someday.  I’m not there yet, and I know it though less and less because I feel the need to write the “perfect story”, but more because I would like to write more than one story in this story-verse I’ve created and I would like them all to work together plausibly.

19.   What is your position on the self -vs traditional publishing debate?

Both have their virtues.  However, I’m not big of “selling” or self-promotion, so I will try the traditional route first.  I do realize that still means trying to do promotions and things myself.  But I can deal with that, because I’m even worse at paperwork and keeping track of legal fine print. (which is extra funny, because I originally  applied to college for pre-law not environment science and forestry)

20.   Who shot first, Han or Greedo?

Trick question.  Obviously you haven’t been made aware that Han was tricked into believing he shot first (a device planted under the table by Greedo had neutralized his weapon temporarily).  However (though it is not common knowledge) Han had his own fair share of midi-chlorians and a wild power, which he used unconsciously (his wild flying and sense of danger of course being manifestations of this), and he used the Force, without meaning, to force Greedo’s shot away from him.  And ricochet is a bitch (yes, I know… lasers don’t ricochet, but in this case it did!)And of course you can tell people…  Untrained users of the Force are a danger to everyone.  😉

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Revelations of Polyamory

According to Wikipedia:

Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It is not to be confused with polysexuality, which is attraction towards multiple genders and/or sexes.

My Kingdom Come Novels are about a society where the most traditional marriage consists of four men and four women. Other combinations are common. Marriage of just a pair is quite unusual, and often leads to having friends fix up said pair with other “small” marriages in the hopes that the couple could find the happiness inherent in group marriages.

So, my characters are polyamorous.

SCANDALOUS!

Well, yeah, when you consider how unusual it is in our own present society. But the point of the book is showing the relationships as being very normal, traditional, and happy. Just as Ursula K LeGuin’s The Left Hand of Darkness shows a society where the very human-looking beings (supposedly descended from humans, evolved in their own way after thousands of years) are androgynous.

All right already… what’s the revelation?

After completing the rough drafts of several novels, I’m stalled on the one that will be the first of the Kingdom Come stories. These are primarily romances… the characters are not saving the universe from certain doom. They are simply living their lives and falling in love in a society very different from our own.

The story is called About Damn Time and it focuses on Mia, who has been happily married for about twenty years. Mia and her husband Andrei spend a year on Earth (It’s a business trip) with the family’s three oldest children. While there, they meet AiMei… and the feelings of being attracted to this woman while desperately missing the six spouses who remained back home lead to a complicated love story.

I decided to write a story about a family visiting Earth because it would make a good contrast to establish the setting of all the Kingdom Come stories. But as written, there is no conflict regarding the couple’s polyamory. I simply mention it like a fact.

My revelation? I need to include Mia having to explain her family’s tradition to people on Earth who think that group marriage is weird, or even offensive. There has to be that kind of tension while they are on Earth, and it should be relieved when they return home.

Now… to get the time to write. This first semester back to my old teaching gig is taking up a lot more time and energy than I realized it would. Of course, before, I could recycle a lot of content from one semester to the next. Now, I’m recreating everything since so much has changed in five years.

I’ll figure it out. We’ve got a new Round of Words in 80 Days starting soon, and I can re-evaluate how I divide my time.

Wish me luck.

It’s about damn time I got something ready to query an agent.

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But I Don’t Want to Burn My Bra…

There are 2 versions of this post. I wasn’t able to finish it on the day I started it, and since the topic is one that is very active right now, new things happened and when I went back to my post it turned into a long, rambling, TLDR post.

So I condensed it. But for those readers who might not be aware of either of the news items I mention, I left the longer version and a bunch of links at the bottom of this post. After all, in the virtual press, a longer post doesn’t actually take any more resources than a short post.

The Short Version

I’m getting mixed messages lately. Or maybe they’re not mixed; perhaps people are simply confused.

In a Today Show interview about the erotic BDSM novel Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James Savannah Guthrie made it clear she thinks that all BDSM demeans women.

First of all, why now? We’ve had BDSM stories for a long time. I suppose this particular novel appealed to a greater audience, and sold enough copies to grab the media’s attention. I haven’t read it, but friends who have (and who know the BDSM community) seem to hold the general opinion that it isn’t that good. It’s a great romanticized fantasy; not a great representation of BDSM.

Towards the end of the clip, Savannah Guthrie asks “Is this really where we’ve come?”

Yes. This is where we’ve come. In the Today Show video, sex therapist Laura Berman says “If we look at the history, we have the Women’s Movement, which really was about empowering women not to be submissive to men anymore.  Now we’ve moved on to a new generation where women are more empowered than ever before, the glass ceiling has been broken, and we have as much control as we want. And what are we longing for? A little bodice ripping.”

I totally get that. (Forgive me for letting my 1980’s teenage slang to show.) Yup! All that bra burning took place before I was born. I am grateful for it. Thank you, all you who came before me and gave me the freedoms I enjoy today.

Or not… No sooner had I seen the twitter-rage about the television host’s dismissal of the genre than I hear some self-important radio shock jock who shall not be named (He’s got enough publicity over this already) call a woman a prostitute because she wants insurance companies to cover a woman’s birth control medicine just like they cover most prescription drugs.

Walter…Tango…Foxtrot.

Really? I did a big doubletake at this comment, not just because it’s offensive, but because it’s such a giant stretch. And haven’t we come past this, long ago? Wasn’t that part of the bra burning? I’m 42, and until recently I did not even know that birth control was ever controversial at all. I thought the development of the pill was simply another nice leap forward in medicine, along the lines of “Yeah! We have a vaccine for Polio!” or “Finally! A safer anesthesia!” I just can’t imagine why anyone anywhere would have any reason to not want a safe, simple way for humans to prevent conception. Birth control was a huge leap forward in human health, not just women’s issues.

I don’t want to burn my bra. It’s comfortable and supportive. It’s not a symbol of oppression to me. This fight was fought and won by previous generations. If I want to read a kinky story, I will. And I can choose to use birth control or not and the only person who has any say in the matter is my husband.

The Long, Rambling Version

I’m getting mixed messages lately. Or maybe they’re not mixed; perhaps people are simply confused. Last week a furor arose around the novel Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James.

Attention suburbia: Sexually explicit bodice-rippers are making a comeback. British novel “Fifty Shades of Grey” by author E.L. James (a woman in her 40s) is getting women talking — and fantasizing. But while some find this trend to be a healthy way for women to express their sexuality, others are disturbed by the kind of sex the novel involves.

The Huffington Post

I’m not talking about furor over how racy or kinky the book is. I missed that particular furor, if it ever happened at all. I’m talking about the furor over Today Show host Savannah Guthrie’s rather unprofessional and far from objective interview style. Dr. Drew Pinsky found the novel disturbing. Towards the end of the clip, Savannah Guthrie says “Is this really where we’ve come? After fifty years, women have the power…” It is obvious that she has little understanding for respect for the BDSM community.

Well, I don’t really get the appeal of BDSM either, but I do understand that many perfectly normal, decent people do get it. I also understand that the community has very explicit rules about safety, control, and consent.

Something else I’ve learned from my twitter friends who do enjoy BDSM stories is that these particular books are not a very good representation of the genre. I have no idea why 50 Shades stirred up a controversy when these stories have been around for a long time.

For anyone who is curious, but reluctant to delve into the popular trilogy, I recommend Tiffany Reisz. In particular, her novella Seven Day Loan is a well written glimpse into the complex relationship between the Dominant and Submissive. Tiffany also wrote a mini-sequel freebie called Daniel Part Two and put it on her blog.

In the Today Show video, sex therapist Laura Berman says “If we look at the history, we have the Women’s Movement, which really was about empowering women not to be submissive to men anymore.  Now we’ve moved on to a new generation where women are more empowered than ever before, the glass ceiling has been broken, and we have as much control as we want. And what are we longing for? A little bodice ripping.”

I totally get that. (Forgive me for letting my 1980’s teenage slang to show.) Yup! All that bra burning took place before I was born. I am grateful for it. Thank you, all you who came before me and gave me the freedoms I enjoy today.

What I found distasteful was Savannah Guthrie’s  rather rude insistence and generalation that all BDSM demeans women. In fact, my twitter feed was awash with irate tweets from Romance and Erotica writers of all inclinations.

Is this really where we’ve come? Well, yes. We’ve come to a place where women can feel free to express and explore their sexuality in whatever way pleases them. If they want to forego marriage and have as many sexual partners as they like, fine. If they want to marry their high school sweetheart and stay home to raise her family, fine. Or anywhere in between. Yes, this is where we’re come. We have the freedom and power now.

Or do we? No sooner had I seen the twitter-rage about the television host’s dismissal of the genre than I hear some self-important radio shock jock who shall not be named (He’s got enough publicity over this already) call a woman a prostitute because she wants insurance companies to cover a woman’s birth control medicine.

Walter. Tango. Foxtrot.

Really? I did a big doubletake at this comment, not just because it’s offensive, but because it’s such a giant stretch. Haven’t we come past this, long ago? Wasn’t that part of the bra burning? I’m 42, and until recently I did not even know that birth control was ever controversial at all. I thought the development of the pill was simply another nice leap forward in medicine, along the lines of “Yeah! We have a vaccine for Polio!” or “Finally! A safer anesthesia!” I just can’t imagine why anyone anywhere would have any reason to not want a safe, simple way for humans to prevent conception. (Except for those who, for religious reasons, believe that humans should be having lots of babies.) Birth control was a huge leap forward in human health, not just women’s issues.

Damn. Maybe I do need to burn my bra after all. But, you see, the thing is, I like my bra. It’s comfortable and supportive. No one is making me wear it. Nor is anyone forcing to have or not to have children. No one’s calling me a prostitute…

But apparently we aren’t quite there yet.

Following are a few random links I’ve gathered to other who’ve written a post related to 50 Shades of Grey:

Dr. Logan Levkoff Deconstructs the book http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-logan-levkoff/fifty-shades-of-grey-bdsm_b_1318169.html?ref=tw

Andrew Shaffer storifies “50 Tweets of Grey”

Roni’s book recommendations 

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Joanie Has a New Friend

I wrote a post a couple of months ago about Joanie, my Barnes & Noble Nook.

A couple days ago, Joanie got a new friend… a Kindle I won in Charles JustizFacebook Contest promoting his book, Specific Impulse. That’s his book, actually on the ISS… not photoshopped! AstroCady brought it up for him. Apparently, she left it there for other astronauts to enjoy!

It was good timing. Our oldest is about to turn 13, and she’s always asking to borrow Joanie. So this Kindle is destined for her, as a special birthday present that comes with the caveat “But you have to take good care of it!”

Now, I just need to figure out… how do I put a password into it so that I can download some books for her, but NOT give her the ability to download or buy anything?

Hopefully someone knows. With Joanie, she’s password protected, but it’s a password just to engage her in the first place. It’s all or nothing. With the Kindle, I’m hoping that my daughter can turn it on and use it, but not buy stuff on Mom’s credit card.

That would be rather disastrous!

A quick update for #ROW80…

This round I have not written as much as I’d hoped, but I’m OK with that for now. I started teaching again, and I’m struggling with over commitment. Two weeks left, then I’ll reevaluate my priorities.

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SciFi Q of the Day: Asteroid AG5

SciFi Question of the Day: If we discover that asteroid AG5 really is going to hit the Earth in 2040, who should we send to blast/deflect it away?
Astronauts trained in explosives/drilling?

Drilling/explosives experts trained to be astronauts?

Bruce Willis and Ben Affleck?

Facebook Answers:

  Dave Mac Breaking news from the White House:  Today the President announced that he would like to express his sincere apologies for any harm perpetrated by Ben and Bruce upon this defenseless asteroid.

  Robert B. Fredricksen So true Dave Mac!

  Alan Willis Train the astronauts in explosives. It’d be less expensive than.training explosives guys as astronauts. And the ‘nauts would have a good couple of decades to become proficient.

  Dave Mac We could phase shift the Earth so the Asteriod passes right past us without any harm to either body.

  Dan Bressler Better plan. Launch Rush Limbaugh into a parking orbit. Use gravitational attraction to pull asteroid off of a collision course.

  AmyBeth Fredricksen Which has the greater pull? The asteroid, or the assteroid?

  Dan Bressler Ooh, a Newton’s law question! Tricky…

  Daniel Beard well, due to the fact that blasting any asteroid that is large enough to be a serious threat would only cause the shrapnel effect. I would recommend trying to Orion the thing into a different trajectory. I would think up or down in the epileptic. we have 28 years, might be enough time.

Google Plus Answers:

Laston Kirkland's profile photo Laston Kirkland  –  Send a drone up to land on it… make and polish a crater, paint it silver then sit in the focal point to take the heat from the newly formed concave reflective mirror… and focus it into space as a solar powered engine… should generate enough thrust to miss the earth and spiral further and further out of our way.

no need to send any people.

Charles Moore's profile photo  Charles Moore  –  X-Prize it. Offer a billion dollars to whomever succeeds.

Jim Hanson's profile photo  Jim Hanson  –  Two words – giant robot.

michael interbartolo's profile photo  michael interbartolo  –  ion rocket to push it off course. small constant nudge will change the course without having to worry about multiple impact sites from an explosive break up.

AmyBeth Inverness's profile photo  AmyBeth Inverness  –  +michael interbartolo can we send robots to do it? Or do we need to send humans? How soon would they have to leave?

Charles Moore's profile photo  Charles Moore  –  Robots should be okay. Grant Imahara can do it! Timing is all about angles. The closer the object becomes, the more deflection required and the more energy it’ll take.

michael interbartolo's profile photo  michael interbartolo  –  +Charles Moore is correct the further out you intercept the asteroid, the less of a nudge you need to give it. if you want until it passes inside the Moon you need a big velocity delta to change the orbit so that it doesn’t intercept the earth’s orbit. you can either harpoon the asteroid and pull it out of the way or auger in and push it out of the way.

Click this link for a Space.com article on the asteroid.

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I would love to hear what you think! Even if you are reading this post a year or more after publishing, I hope you will leave a comment with your own ideas on this topic.

The previous SciFi Q of the Day is Can Good SciFi Lack Plausible Science?

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The next SciFi Q of the Day will be up next Tuesday.

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The Hairbrush

Degas, La Toilette, 1884-1886, Hermitage Museum

It was so long ago, I’m sure I’ll never remember what book it was. It was about a girl who was blind, and how she coped with her disability. One scene has stood out in my mind for decades now… about a hairbrush.

The blind character reaches out to the place on the windowsill where the hairbrush should be, and it is not there. This causes a short conflict with her sister, who moved the brush. It seems like such a tiny thing to most people; moving a personal item a few inches from a windowsill to a dresser should be nothing at all. But for a person without sight, it is vastly important. She can’t hear the brush. She might grope around for a while and eventually find it, or she might grope around helplessly and never succeed. Her only recourse then is to ask someone for help. There are enough times in a disabled person’s life that they need to ask for assistance; requiring help for a tiny thing like a hairbrush is frustrating and demeaning.

There are little things that we all need. Some are so odd that our peers just don’t understand why we need them. Some people like to have their food uniform and mixed together. Others require their food to be compartmentalized, consuming each separately. This isn’t a disability, but it might be of such importance to the person as to make them extremely uncomfortable or anxious if they can’t have things their way. For me, with OCD, I have several things I need, in varying degrees. I need sleep. I have learned how to temporarily function on days when I don’t get enough, but this only works on the short term and I make it a priority to make up for it later. Since making up requires more time than just getting enough sleep in the first place, I do my best to make sure a sleep shortage never happens. Another thing I need is regular food. I’m not diabetic, but I know that if I wait too long between meals/snacks, it affects my body and my ability to do the things I need to do.

It wasn’t long ago that alcoholics were seen as no more than worthless drunks. Now we know it to be a disease, something that must be treated and dealt with carefully. If an alcoholic finds themselves in a social situation where everyone is expected to have an alcoholic beverage, they must refrain, even if it’s awkward. Some may be willing to state unequivocally “No thanks, I’m an alcoholic.” while for others, this might be something personal they don’t wish to share. They don’t want people to question why they are turning down alcohol.

I don’t like to justify needing food. For one thing, I’m overweight, and if I mention that I want food, I’m often regarded as a lazy and gluttonous. Needing sleep is an easier need to meet, unless I’m away from home and expected to socialize into the wee hours. I’m not seventeen anymore; I’m not capable of pulling an all-nighter.

I imagine that most people have little needs like these, and I do my best to respect those needs. We do not all have obvious, understandable disabilities such as blindness. We do not all have have diagnosed diseases with a framed certificate we can hang on a wall. We are all simply human, with needs that are as varied and different as there are people.

Vive la différence.

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Interview With Rob Fredricksen

Rob Fredricksen is the long suffering and ever loving husband of yours truly. Super Info Tech guy by day, he’s a wonderful Daddy to our two girls and even keeps a basket-full of toys in his office for when they come to visit him at work. We’ve been married for almost seventeen years, and I wouldn’t trade a single day.

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1) Did you know I was one of those writer-types when we got married?

No… friends told me that you were a Trekkie, and that you liked going to Renaissance Faires. They even spun some kind of story about you throwing hatchets and being really good, but that was a lie. By the time we got married, the only writing you’d done was that Star Trek cartoon you did.

2) When did you figure out that I was a writer?

When you tested out of English at VTC. You’d done something about mud in your toes, and tested out of every English requirement at the college, which people had told me was impossible to do. That’s when I figured out that you were probably a pretty good writer.

3) Does it annoy you when I correct your grammar and spelling?

Sometimes. Not always.

4) What went through your head back in November 2010 when I told you I wanted to do NaNoWriMo?

I felt you could do it. You’d already written one book, and it didn’t seem to me that it was going to be too killer to pull off. So I spent a lot of time with our little ones, so Mommy had time to write her book. That’s hard sometimes, especially as the little one can be very demanding about getting Mommy Time. It really feels like your novel writing is a team effort, as I’m taking care of so many things while you’re writing.

5) Do you remember the one condition you put on your agreement to do more “Mommy stuff” while I wrote?

I said that this time you had to send something to a publisher or agent. My mother wrote so much stuff, and never did anything with it.

6) What do you think your mother was writing about?

She told me once that a lot of her stories were a lot like soap operas. I never actually saw any of the stories, which is really sad. As she neared the end of her life, she destroyed everything. She was afraid of being judged. For all we know, she wrote one of the best books ever written, but we’ll never know, and that’s really sad.

7) Do you think if your mother had survived the cancer that she would have ever sent something to a publisher?

I don’t think so. She was so fearful of what other people thought, that she never would have done it. I do know that when she was in High School, her writing was really good and she did a lot. But the fear of being judged… she had to be sure no one would ever.

8) Do you like it when I read a scene from my Work in Progress out loud to you?

Yes! For two reasons. The story is always good, and I love to see how excited you get when you read the story to me, because I can see how proud you are of what you’ve done.

9) Even when it’s a sex scene?

Oh yeah. Your first book that will never see the light of day was a very fun and exciting book. It’s a shame; it’s a hot book and was written while you were on fertility drugs, and that made it extra spicy, like something you’d find in the pages of Hustler, not a romance novel!

10) How did you survive when I did the #3DayNovel Weekend?

I think I did OK… we ate out a lot, but I did a couple meals at home. I don’t think it was that bad.

11) What went through your mind when I said I wanted to do NaNoWriMo again, and a year later I still hadn’t sent anything to an agent?

You had told me the first novel (long ago…the one that will never be seen…) was a wash because of the medicine. The children’s novels were not done far enough to publish, so you needed another solid good book. One that was good enough to turn in. And with the ones that you wrote during that year, you told me that they weren’t good “first novels” for your series. So I was OK with the fact that you hadn’t sent anything out yet.

12) What’s your most romantic memory in our seventeen years together?

Valentines Day before we were married. I had come over to spend time with you, and as it started getting late, we were cuddling on the bean bag in your living room (you didn’t have much furniture) and we ended up spending the night, sleeping there on the living room floor with our heads on the beanbag, talking and snuggling.

13) What did you find sexiest about me when we were first dating?

That’s kind of hard, because I know your Mom’s going to read this, but the first time I saw you, definitely the neckline on your dress.

14) After almost seventeen years of marriage, what do you find sexiest about me now?

Your very sharp, quick wit, and your sense of imagination.

15) If my wit is so sexy, why do I always catch you staring at my chest?

You know, when men get older, sometimes we have neck problems…

No, seriously. Remember the part about the low neckline? *ahem*

16) What was I doing when you came home from work today?

You were upstairs working on your new aluminum foil hat.

17) Are you jealous I didn’t make you one?

Nope! But I was quite surprised to find our 4yo had one too.

18) If I ever get to go to some writing event, will you be my arm candy?

Yup. I’m looking forward to it. I can’t wait; I’ll get to see all the other hubbies there. I hope there’s a lounge where we can all sit.

19) What if it’s a SciFi event, not a Romance event?

I’d be quite at home there! We used to go to conventions.

20) Who shot first, Han or Greedo?

I know, from the VHS, and from going to watch the original film at the drive-in theater as a child, that Han short first. Lately, I saw an article where George himself claimed that Han shot last, and that’s the way it’s always been. But I know, from the original movie I watched, that Han shot first. I believe that it’s about the redemption of Han Solo. That being with Luke took him so far towards being a good guy. Han Solo started his life as a shuttle pilot for the Empire. And after seeing how the Wookies were treated, he rescued Chewy and left the Empire, taking Chewy with him. And the only real work that he could get was being a pirate.

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Grown-Up Plans

I’ve stated before that, when I was little, I wanted to be either an architect or an author. But I also went through the usual gamut of aspiring to be a firefighter, a retail clerk, or trapeze artist.

I wanted to be a tourist. I still do, but at least now I realize that, unless you work for a travel magazine, that isn’t really a profession.

More than anything, I wanted to be a child a prodigy. I had the intense feeling that, if I hadn’t proven myself by the time I was fifteen or so, I had failed for life.

Well, I definitely wasn’t a prodigy.

Now I have children of my own, and I’m watching them go through some of the same stuff I did. However their childhoods are vastly different from mine. The reasons are countless… different part of the country, different socioeconomic status, new technologies.

My older daughter is about to turn thirteen (Lord Help Me!) She has special needs, and so she is still learning to do some of the things that five year olds take for granted. She has trouble tying shoes. Although she can empty the dishwasher because she’s learned where everything goes, she is incapable of loading the dishwasher because that requires logical decision-making, and that is still a difficult area for her.

Just because I didn’t become a child prodigy by age fifteen doesn’t mean I’m a failure at life. Just because my daughter will still be working on certain adolescent skills well into her twenties and beyond does not mean she will be a failure at life.

It simply means we lead different lives.

I didn’t get serious about writing until I was just a couple months shy of forty. I already had two degrees, two children, and one mid-life crisis under my belt. (Actually, I decided long ago that I’d have two “third life” crises. I had one at thirty, so I’m not due for another until I’m sixty.) Part of me wonders how different my life would be if I’d taken that Liberal Arts scholarship at age 18 instead of going to school for engineering. Certainly very different. But at the ripe old age of forty-one, I’m over the idea that I have to accomplish certain things by a certain age. It’s not the life I planned, but it’s my life. And if I don’t see my name on a book on the grocery store shelf until I’m well past fifty, I’ll still celebrate.

And maybe I’ll even move on to other things.

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Keeping on Keeping On

Quick update for A Round of Words in 80 Days…

Three weeks left. Although I’m not doing as much writing as I’d like, I’m OK with that for now. I think I need to eventually know what my yearly writing schedule looks like… from going nuts during NaNoWriMo (And more nuts during the #3DayNovel Weekend over Labor Day) to slowing down at other times of the year.

I’ve decided that when I reach the one year anniversary of my proofreading contract in May (I volunteer for a publisher…I do it for the experience and networking connections.) I’m going to stop. It was a great year-long experience, but life is busier now and I need to concentrate on polishing up my own writing in preparation to submit to an agent. I’ll still proofread for friends every once in a while.

The one #ROW80 goal I haven’t met yet that I really want to is to write two thousand words in one hour. I can do a thousand, and I’ve come close to 2k, but never crossed that line. I have three weeks to make it!

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